For some people this is what they’ve been waiting for. For other people it’s a shock because they don’t know how to react when faced with this type of situation. Communication between you and your ex has taken a hit after the breakup, and that’s completely normal.
But if you’re hoping to get back together it’s important to be able to find a good way to be in touch, even if this can make you feel pretty uncomfortable at times!
Saying my ex called me can throw anyone off-balance. Why am I getting a phone call? How should I take advantage of this opportunity to turn things around? What should I say to them to reignite attraction?
If you’re asking yourself these questions, you’ll definitely be interested in this article!
Answering a call from your ex: Under what circumstances?
When you receive a phone call from your ex, if your feelings are still present, it can be a real relief. In fact, maybe you’ve been waiting for this phone call for some time now. You didn’t make the first step because you didn’t want to suffocate them and you wanted to give them the space they needed. This is what many people do, and if you’re familiar with my articles you’re probably aware of the importance of RS.
Consequently, when you see their name show up on your phone, you’re instantly filled with joy and adrenaline. I don’t want to burst your bubble but you’re going to have to ask yourself if it’s a good idea to respond, and if this is going to help you to get back together.
Sometimes, men and women rush things and the first mistake they make is thanking their ex for the call. This reminds the ex how much they’re missed. In other words if you do this, you’re doing exactly the opposite of what you’re supposed to be doing. In this situation, you should not act like this because you’ll waste a perfect opportunity to get back in touch with your ex in a healthy way. If you feel you might break one of the rules of getting back together, then don’t answer. If you know you can control yourself, go ahead and answer.
My ex called me but should I respond?
Since each situation is different, it’s hard for me to give you a direct answer about when it’s appropriate to answer your ex’s call. In any case, the most important thing to do is for you to keep your self-control and to not get too “caught up” in idea of talking to your ex partner. Even though it’s an important step when trying to get back together, keep your cool: it’s just a phone call.
Before even thinking about answering, you have to make sure you’ve worked on your self-confidence. This way you’ll be able to have a conversation with your ex without begging, without making them see that you’re suffering incessantly from heartache. None of this is very attractive, so keep these things to yourself and don’t divulge your intentions quite yet. Just like during the seduction phase, you’ll have to remain neutral.
I’ve been speaking to you throughout this article as if you’re trying to get back together with your ex, but this might not be the case for you. If you’ve already turned the page and you’re not trying to make them come back, then why not answer their call?
This could be a good way to reopen healthy contact with an ex after a separation. However, there is something that shouldn’t go overlooked.
Is answering an ex’s phone call a good idea when they’re in a new relationship? Your new partner might not be comfortable with you being in touch with your ex.
I’d like to talk about one last thing concerning men and women that would like to get back together with their ex. This phone call is a possible means to ensure a way to meet up with the person in question. The first time you meet up face to face after a breakup isn’t always easy. Stress, anxiety and even your emotions can make you feel uneasy. If you use this call as well as future ones to repair your communication, your discussions will be much easier and you’ll be more inclined to organize meeting up with your ex face to face.
Why is my ex contacting me?
When you receive an unexpected phone call from your ex, the very first thing you wonder is why? It’s true that this isn’t something that happens all the time, and even though many of my readers dream of being in this situation, when it finally happens it’s not always as easy as they expected. You can receive a call from an ex for many reasons.
1. They regret their decision and want to get back in touch with you. If you wanted to get back together this is ideal. In fact they missed you too much and you now have an opportunity to start a new relationship together.
2. Your radio silence worked. Maybe you thought I wasn’t going to bring up RS in this article but it’s a big part of communication when trying to get back together. You started to employ this technique specifically to make them realize how much they need you and guess what, it worked! By cutting contact with your ex, you’ve nudged them to make the first move. You can therefore answer the call, but don’t think that this automatically means that your period or RS has to end. In fact, if you let your ex decide when RS is over, it will look like you’re emotionally dependent on them and there is nothing more unattractive. Keep your distance even if you’re smiling from ear to ear while you’re on the phone!
3. A phone call from your ex could also result from guilt. They know you’re going through a difficult period and that it’s hard for you to move on from this breakup. So in order to “help you,” they’re calling. Unfortunately, even though your ex is clearly thinking of you, this isn’t the best solution. Your job now is to turn this feeling of guilt into a feeling of missing you if you want them back.
Don’t ever panic when you receive a phone call from your ex. You’re holding the cards and you can make the conversation go the way you want it to, so don’t be needy or too compliant. Let them make the efforts because after all it’s your ex that called you!
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