Not every breakup ends like they do in Hollywood movies where the two main characters get along and might even get back together at the end of the film.
Unfortunately, your situation is more complicated. You’d think that after the breakup, things would calm down and that you’d be able to establish a calmer relationship, even if this wasn’t the case while you were together.
But you’ve got a problem concerning the person you were sharing your life with. “We’ve broken up and my ex doesn’t want to see me anymore. What do I do?” I’ve heard this hundreds of times, and it’s never without reason. But how can you explain it? Just a few days or weeks ago you were still together and today, you can’t even meet for coffee!
You could say “I give up,” delete their number and move on, but if you’re reading this right now you’re probably looking for a different kind of solution. You want to know if there’s still hope. Rest assured, there is! In order to reestablish communication, you have to figure out what the problem is so that you can provide the solutions.
My ex doesn’t want to see me : 3 reasons why!
When an ex decides to no longer be in contact with you, there can be multiple explanations based on your specific relationship. Thanks to my experience as a relationship expert, I’ve been able to help so many people… and I can tell you the three main reasons why your ex-partner would refuse to see you, and limit your communication to one or two text messages when they deem you worthy.
Your ex is in a new relationship
One reason why your ex could decide to put the maximum amount of space between you, and no longer feel the desire to see you could simply be because they’ve found someone new.
In the beginning of a new relationship, there is a huge amount of passion so your ex might not feel comfortable with the idea of seeing you again because they have someone new.
Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that they’ve forgotten you. After a breakup people often have a “Band-Aid relationship.” In other words, they’re just in another relationship so that they can get over you as fast as they can.
It’s a particular situation especially when you want to get back together with your ex. You have to say the right things at precisely the right time in order to get back in touch and to have a conversation that will help you to reach your goal. When your ex has someone new, you have to act differently.
This is why we’ve written an eBook which addresses this issue and it will give you tools and keys to make things right.
Your ex doesn’t want to see you for at least one reason
The hardest reason behind their actions might also be the hardest for you to accept: when you’re responsible for what you’re going through. Some people say, “My ex doesn’t want to see me” but can’t bring themselves to admit that they’ve done something wrong.
As I often say, in love nothing happens by accident. If you’ve make a mistake during your relationship or during your attempt at getting back together, it would make perfect sense for your ex to not feel the desire to spend time with you.
After constant fighting or a betrayal, they feel bitter. Your image has been tarnished and you’re going to have to make the effort to remedy this. You’ve broken their heart and this had lead to animosity. It’s a hard situation to handle…
But maybe you’ve made a wrong move in your method of getting back together and this is why your ex doesn’t want to be in contact. If you’ve badgered your ex, or if you haven’t changed since the breakup, your ex doesn’t have a good reason to accept your proposal to see each other.
You also have to be able to accept that your attitude may have hurt them and that their distance is their way of protecting themselves from having to go through the same thing twice. That said, you can change things if you adopt the right attitude.
Your ex is employing Radio Silence!
Maybe you’re not the only one that wants to get back together and your ex has succeeded in his endeavor! He’s made you miss him, and that means something. Radio Silence, (but I’m sure you already know this,) is one of the main ways to get back together with your ex. With distance and analysis you can send a striking message.
If your ex is refusing to see you, maybe it’s because they’re taking the time to analyze the situation and the breakup so that they can avoid making the same mistakes in the future.
Coaching for changing your ex’s mind
I know that a lot of you think that time is the best solution. You’re waiting and you’re thinking that in a week or in two months you’re going to be able to make them come back.
But it’s important to know that when you want to get back together with your ex, you shouldn’t waste time. I’m not saying that you have to run for your phone and call and text your ex immediately and continue doing so every day.
I’m just saying that you need to design a plan of action that you will follow to the T in order to get the desired reaction from the person you love.
That said, you should never randomly choose actions; you need the ones that are appropriate to your situation. A coaching session can help you make your ex stop ignoring you, and it can also help you to rebuild yourself and properly adapt the techniques I recommend.
When a man is no longer talking to you the worst thing you could possible do is to panic and harass them because it can make even eventually hate you. There are different ways to make your ex get back in touch but you should never force anything because it could make things worse.
Your coach when realizing my ex doesn’t want to see me anymore.