If there’s one subject that’s easy to understand, it’s the psychological effects of a separation. Of course every person handles a breakup differently and every person has their behavior and way of seeing things, but everyone going through this ordeal experiences emotional shock whether or not the decision to separate was theirs.
Out of all the effects a divorce can have on a person, one of the most common ones is serious emotional dependence. It is always possible to fight against this phenomenon and that is why my services are at your disposal. If you want to feel better after a separation and understand what are the psychological effects of a breakup, you have two options available to you.
The choice to make immediately after a breakup
Life is full of choices. After a divorce or separation, you don’t have a hundred solutions to your love life; you have two. The first possibility is that you design a strategy for getting back together with the one you hold so dear, and I can help you figure out a plan of action that will have you feeling better and on the path to getting back together before you know it. The other option is that you decide to move on and rebuild yourself, without envisioning starting a new relationship with your ex. Once you’ve made your decision, it’s imperative that you tackle either getting back together with the one you love or mourning your last relationship. We can also help you with moving on thanks to tools for personal development, and also with Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) that my partner Alex is very familiar with.
I can help you in both of these cases to help you feel better, and to not be consumed by thoughts of your ex. That said, I cannot make this decision for you. It has to be your choice. The reason is simple; if I replace you, the psychological effects of the breakup might have the upper hand because you wouldn’t be as determined to follow our plan of action. But if you believe in yourself and you are ready to defend your decision, you can expect spectacular results.
What are the different psychological effects of a breakup?
The root of a separation is often multiple issues that could continue if nothing is done to stop them. To list all of the psychological effects of a breakup I’d have to write dozens of articles, so I’m just going to explore some of the main ones here.
Just like the emotional shock, these effects can be felt at the moment that you learn the relationship has ended. In order to get rid of these negative feelings as quickly, it’s important to face them as early on as possible. The faster you take action and plan your moves, the faster you’ll reach positive results.
Even if you have a heart of stone, it’s never easy to hear that the person you love is leaving you. It’s completely normal to feel sadness and to feel the need to cry. When this remains relatively under control, it’s healthy because it shows how sincere your feelings actually were.
After a breakup, we often feel lost and unsure of how to proceed and what decisions to make. Sometimes it’s necessary to take a step back to gain some perspective by cutting contact with your ex for a few days. This is something that is recommended to do with a coach because with their experience, they can help reduce the amount of pain you feel.
There of course will be a period during which nothing interests you. The things you loved before will hold no interest for you, and they might even irritate or bore you. You shouldn’t allow this to continue for more than just a few days because you’ll risk falling into depression. If you’re in this situation, act fast.
After a breakup, even if your looks could kill, you feel a sort of emptiness and you lose self-confidence. Sometimes you can’t even seduce a person that found you very attractive just a few weeks ago. It’s the shock. To avoid going through this, you have to work on your seduction. You can even work on re-seducing your ex with the techniques that I can teach you.
The most common psychological effect that we see during a divorce or a separation is emotional dependency. Your actions, your thoughts, everything revolves around your ex, and the only thing you can think about is getting back together. To illustrate this point I’d like to share with the testimony of a young man that I helped after his breakup. You can see in his text that his decision was completely altered by his ex’s decision.
Fighting emotional dependence with your coach
“Hello everyone, my name is Chris and I’ve had a few consultations with Adrian. I’m writing this testimony in order to encourage people dealing with heartache who haven’t jumped on the opportunity to have a coaching session with the amazing Adrian. I was also a skeptic – I was wondering, what’s the point? How could he help me?
When I was going through my breakup, I was in a sorry state. I had lost my taste for life, I could have done anything without thinking about the consequences. I was so unhappy that I became deeply depressed. I then understood that I needed to get back up and figure out how to get my ex back so that I could feel better. This is when I found Adrian’s site. I felt a little perplexed at the idea of contacting a love coach, but then I went for it. I felt confident about what he said, the quality of his articles, and his videos.
We started with a coaching session via telephone and he immediately put me at ease by targeting what I needed and understanding my situation, and I never felt judged. Then I told him about my relationship and the rapport between my ex and myself. At that point in time I wanted my ex back so badly because I felt like I was nothing without her.
Adrian identified the problem immediately. I was emotionally dependent… He knew that I didn’t want her back because of love, and that it was just to satisfy this “need.” I still insisted so we starting working on how I’d get her back.
While working together, Adrian was able to get me to ask myself the proper questions.
Little by little, thanks to his extraordinary advice, I was able to rebuild my self-confidence and once again be and feel seductive. I found myself, became everything that I had been before, and I understood that it wasn’t my ex that I wanted but happiness. Adrian helped me to completely heal my emotional dependence and I thank him from the bottom of my heart.
In the end I didn’t actually want to get back together with my ex. I knew deep down that this wasn’t what I wanted. I was turning a blind eye to it but I couldn’t help it. Adrian understood this and worked on my subconscious until I got out of this mindset! Do not hesitate to contact Adrian because I really, truly recommend him.”
If you’ve felt like you’re in the same shoes, that Chris’s story strikes a chord with you, don’t hesitate to leave a comment below and I would be more than happy to help you.
The coach for surmounting the negative effects of a breakup