When you have been in a long term relationship with your significant other or even if you have been married for some time, it is easy to fall into a routine and let romance just fizzle away. Love and intimacy must be nurtured and constantly attended too like a bond fire on a beach to ensure that the flames don’t go out.
You may think that you know everything about your significant other and already have shared so much that the excitement and the element of surprise that first gave you energy to explore new things together has now come and gone. How to renew love in a relationship when you have been with someone for this long?
Rest assured it is possible to once again create romance and ultimately enable love to flourish after years or even decades of having been with someone! In this article our experts on love and relationships will provide you with three concrete actions to take in order to recreate intimacy in your relationship!
Break away from routine and the day to day
One of the most successful ways to renew love in a relationship is to break away from the day to day routine in any way possible. Complacency and inaction is what leads people to neglect their partner by staying within their comfort zone and simply stop making efforts. To try to break this mold in the best possible way, we advise that you find activities and projects of common interests.
Some couples love to play host and invite their friends over, so I suggest to them to throw a dinner party twice a month! Whatever you both like to do together weather it’s to exercise, ski, do water sport activities, gardening or to dance, put extra emphasis on getting out of your home to do activities together.
The element of surprise can also pay big dividends in trying to renew love in your relationship. You and your partner have been acting in a very predictable way with one another which as caused routine and complacency. By surprising your significant other through your actions and suggesting to take part in activities, or even taking them out on a date on a random night; you will start the process or engaging in a dynamic where you are both trying to do something special for one another. A positive surprise is going to slowly but surely enable you to get closer and be more intimate with each other as well.
Another way to break away from routine is to surprise the person that you love with small gifts that will showcase your affection and consideration. You do not have to spend a lot of money to make impression. Weather its buying her flowers, bringing him breakfast in bed or treating your loved one to a couples’ spa, it is highly probable that a small gift from time to time can create an atmosphere or dynamic where the renewal of love can flourish!
Positive Communication can renew love in a relationship
One the most toxic elements to romance and love in general is criticisms. If you have been in a long term relationship and share a living space with your partner, and even more if you have been married for years; it is easy to criticize the other for their shortcomings, negative habits and for little petty things that may have become pet peeves.
If your goal is to get closer to the person that you love in order to renew love in your relationship you must really try to control your emotions and not criticize your significant other under any circumstances; this needs to be kept up for a predetermined period of time. It will inevitably lead to resentment making way for gratitude. Love will have the necessary conditions to once again grow organically.
Once you have been able to control and contain your frustration in regards to their negative behaviors and actions on a daily basis, we will go even further and ask that you engage in positive reinforcement towards the efforts that they do make. I other words, show more appreciation for the little things that they do for the home, for your family or just simply for you.
This principle can be applied to little household chores like cooking or taking the trash out, and even to more basic things that your partner has to do like going to work, taking care of the kids. A simple “thank you” or an “I appreciate what you do on a daily basis” serves as an acknowledgement and positive recognition; it can go a long way towards rekindling a bond that you once had at the beginning of your love story.
It’s impossible to talk about positive communication without talking about body language and positive energy. To renew love in one’s relationship you must start by shifting your body language and your nonverbal communication with the one you love. Hugging, kissing, cuddling, resting your hand on his or her back, smiling, winking or even caressing your partner are all forms of positive body language.
By doing any of these actions you send a signal that you are trying to renew love in your relationship while also connecting with your significant other on a deeper level. You must force yourself to engage in such little gestures, and it will inevitably lead to a more sensual or even sexual connection with the one you love.
Seduce your partner like if it was the first time
Renewed love entails renewed attraction. Nothing can be as effective has making each other feel valued and desired when looking to reconnect. Do not hesitate to look to seduce your partner as only you can, having been in a relationship with him or her for so long. Go back in time and try to remind yourself of that time when you first met and started dating. Ask yourself, what they liked about you then and how you were able to attract and seduce them. It’s in that same spirit that you will be able to seduce your partner as if it were the first time.
Don’t hesitate to organize a special evening or date night on a random day. By doing so and on a short notice, you will put into application many of the tips and advice that we have provided you with in this article. The element of surprise and breaking away from routine, making them feel valued and showing your appreciation through a positive action and placing yourselves in an environment where you can both seduce each other as if you had just met; it can only serve you well when trying to renew the love in your relationship.
Finally don’t hesitate to speak to the person that you love about your desire to be closer to him or her. Open communication in the form of being able to share your desire and needs plays a big part in renewing love in a relationship.
You now have the tools to get closer to the one you love. Remember to stay focused on the different positive communication mechanism that we have highlighted. Get in the mindset of seducing your partner and show him or her that you dearly care and value them.
And to our readers — based on your experience, how have you been able to renew the love with your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband? Please share your comments and insights in the comments section below!
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