After a breakup it’s not easy to move on. Men and women that pretend to forget about their ex as soon as they breakup up are either liars or they weren’t in love and their relationship wasn’t that important to them in the first place.
Even after 1 or 2 months of being with someone you can be completely taken by them and experience something passionate. The length of the relationship has nothing to do with how a person can feel.
Even if this sounds paradoxical, some couples that have been together for 20 years don’t love each other as much as a couple that’s been together for 8 or 9.
It’s therefore important to take action when you are having trouble overcoming the breakup, when depression is becoming more and more present in your life. You can’t just sit about and avoid doing something, thinking, “I can’t stop thinking about my ex because everything reminds me of them,” waiting for time to pass…
This is one of the worst ways to handle the situation. With help from a coach, you’ll be able to reverse the tendency and no longer be the person suffering from the breakup.
Of course there will be days when you’ll be feeling pretty down and out, but with my coaching method, you’ll finally be able to rebuild yourself and things will start looking up again. You’ve already made a huge step forward looking for help, so now it’s time to take it a few steps further.
Why does everything remind me of my ex?
You keep seeing people on the street that look like your ex, you see the same car they drive all the time, and it seems like every character you see in a movie has the same name as them. Sometimes it feels like someone’s playing a cruel joke on you.
No matter what you do, no matter where you go there are things, people, and events that make you think about your ex.
It’s therefore completely normal that you’d be thinking like this and that you would notice all the things that you weren’t seeing before. Nevertheless no one is trying to play a trick on you, there is no conspiracy against your happiness. In simple terms, when a person really wants something, and in these circumstances, someone, they tend to see them everywhere.
Your mind is fixating on the person that you love and no matter what you do, you can’t seem to get them out of your head. Unfortunately, you are no longer with the person you love and this sadness is profound.
When you really want something you can become obsessed with it, it is constantly on your mind and can even make appearances in every day things. A pair of shoes or a piece of jewelry can remind you of them…not to mention the heartache you’re currently feeling.
When you think about your ex all day, it’s because you want them back and you regret having broken up.
Can’t stop thinking about my ex, instead of worrying about me!
When it comes to love and separations we tend to let these things take control. When your feelings are intense and your desire to get back together is very strong, you tend to make the same mistakes multiple times that end up blocking your endeavor.
You beg, you ask for forgiveness every day, you spend an exorbitant amount of money on gifts, you ask your partner’s family for help, in other words, you do everything that you shouldn’t be doing; everything that goes against the proper techniques for getting back together.
I know that most of the people reading this article are hoping to get back together with their ex but it’s important to understand what whether you want your ex back or you want to move on, it’s imperative that you don’t neglect this step.
If you don’t want the breakup to leave its mark on you, you have to keep your emotions and actions in check, and you can’t just sit around thinking, “I can’t stop thinking about my ex,” without doing anything about it!
In order to help you get through this ordeal, we’ve written an eBook to explain in full detail how to rebuild yourself after a breakup. You can find it here and you’ll be able to use the techniques that I recommend if you want things to change, and if you want to start feeling happy again on your own, with your ex, or with someone new.
Rebuilding yourself so that you can rekindle the flame or get back in the game
You might wonder what good personal reconstruction is when you’re trying to get back together, because doing push ups and going for a run in the forest have nothing to do with your ex. If this is how you’re thinking, you’re making a huge mistake. They didn’t leave you for no reason and they’re not going to take you back if nothing has changed.
Spending your time harassing them or declaring your undying love to them will not result in them taking you back.
All the people that I’ve worked with that have been able to rekindle the flame have done a considerable amount of work on themselves and in turn were able to give their ex a new and improved image of themselves. This is the key to success in your endeavor. The process of getting back together starts picking up when you show your ex that you’ve evolved.
The coach when everything makes you think about your ex,